Allowing The “Psychology Of Change” To Help You Break Those Hard Habits

Once the holiday hoopla subsides, it’s time for the New Year’s resolutions. But before you make any, consider these tips to help you overcome some of the obstacles that prevent you from being successful.

Obstacle #1 – You Aim Too High. To counter this, take Positive Action. To do this try adopting this new behavior, whether you want to reduce your stress, save more money, exercise more or spend more time with your family, pick one thing and work on it until it becomes natural. Then move on to the next thing on your list. If you need to adjust your goal, take the positive action and make the adjustment. This is the process of adopting new positive behaviors to replace those that do not serve us so that we can get the results that we wish to create.

Obstacle #2 – You Make Excuses. To counter this, Think Positive. It is one thing to accept the fact that thought creates action. It is an entirely different thing to perceive one’s own thoughts because our thoughts move quickly and are fleeting. Our words reflect our thoughts and feelings so when we make excuses for ourselves, what we are really telling ourselves is that we did not plan ahead and are not committed to ourselves. Instead of making excuses, make a commitment to yourself. Tell yourself to be conscious of when you feel you are about to make an excuse and instead say a positive affirmation to plant the thoughts of awareness into your mind. This will bring you back to being committed to yourself and in turn you will gain confidence and a peace of mind.

Obstacle #3 – You Give Up Too Quickly. To counter this, Positive Feeling. Success won’t happen overnight and setbacks and slip-ups are likely to happen. Instead of getting down on yourself when you have a set back, turn it in to a positive by remembering how you felt when you began your plan or when you accomplished a goal on your plan. Remembering this positive feeling will trigger the positive response center within you. Feelings motivate our thoughts and when we feel good, we think good thoughts and take positive action. Set interim goals for yourself, so that you will see progress. It could take 3 weeks to 3 months to change your habits but the key is to keep trying and to keep moving forward.

So you see by thinking positive you take positive action and experience positive feelings there by reinforcing the positive behavior you are now taking on as you break those hard to break habits.

The above tips are 3 of the 5 ways of how the psychology of change can assist you in your life.

Wishing you much health and wellness!


Rochele Lawson, RN,AHP,CMS

The Queen of Feeling Fabulous






Establishing Balance

Most people discover a significant disparity between what they say is important to them and what they are doing with their time. This is especially true with working professionals and entrepreneurs. Many of these individuals say they want to spend more time with their families or would like to have a balance between professional life and home life. It is this same group of people that truly struggle to find a balance between work or running their business and the personal and family time. Often, family time gets interrupted due to the demands of their work or business obligations. This lack of balance causes internal as well as external tension. This leads to an increase in stress and overwhelm which in turns leads to stress related illnesses and diseases.

If you are looking for ways to establish balance between professional life and home life, keep reading for some solutions that you can incorporate into your life immediately.

Once you begin to become mindful and understand the disparity that exists in your life, you can begin to determine what corrective action you need to take.

Try this:

  • First of all be mindful of the disparity by acknowledging it but don’t let it capture your energy.
  • Write it down and be specific. i.e. (I stay too late at the office each night. I will come home from work 30 minutes earlier each night so that I can spend more time with my family)
  •  List the steps you will take to change the amount of your time and attention you devote to this imbalance. ( I will turn off my cell phone every night at 6pm and will not turn it back on until the morning)
  • Commit to completion dates for each step and after a reasonable period of time, reevaluate and make adjustments as necessary.

It is important that you be as specific as possible when writing the disparity down that you want to correct. For each disparity list the steps you will take to change it. These things assist you with being mindful of the process and will allow you to see what works and what does not. It will aid you to eliminating what does not work and seeing what does work. It is through this process that you will be able to incorporate the solutions that work in bringing the balance in your life in your life that you seek.

When a person has the balance in their life that they seek, they operate in a more efficient and productive manner. There is less stress, more joy and more peace and a sense of well-being.